By Ruchi Dhami
There’s something about the beginning of a new year. It’s arbitrary in so many ways — what really is different about January 1st compared to December 31st? But the air feels new as the metaphorical slate wipes clean, and after the celebratory confetti is swept up and all the champagne bottles (or sparkling cider — we see you, soon-to-be mamas!) are emptied, we feel a sort of freshness as we head into the new year.
And with the turn of the calendar page, we make new promises to ourselves. About 40% of Americans mark the start of the year with a list of New Years resolutions, most of which include saving money, losing weight, or following a passion like travel or reading. By the end of January, only 20% of those who resolved to do something will still be committed. By the end of the year, that number drops to 8%.
This got us thinking: should we even make resolutions? Being moms already brings about so much pressure — do we need to inflict more upon ourselves, only to likely be disappointed?
Well, we decided to do something a little bit different this year. Instead of making sweeping resolutions, we chose to make a few commitments to ourselves, and we wanted to share them with you!We’ll make time for ourselves. Between being moms, wives, business partners, and full-time employees, there sometimes aren’t enough hours in the day for me time. And when we do get those opportunities, we’ve found ourselves feeling like we’re being self-indulgent. But that time is SO important and we are deserving of a little break! Whether it’s a quick manicure, lunch with the girls, date night, a 5-minute meditation, or a little time alone to read a book, we’re going to try to find those moments to do what we need to do to recharge our batteries, and most importantly, we’ll let that be okay.
We’ll set intentions and refer back to them as needed. Sometimes saying a mantra out loud can breathe life into the words. Read our 2020 Milx Manifesto, created with our friend Kate Jesuele, here, and bookmark the page so you can repeat these affirmations whenever your soul needs them.
We’ll forgive ourselves when things don’t go the way we planned. Motherhood is unpredictable. Sometimes juice spills all over the carpet. Sometimes we forget to enroll our child into music class. Sometimes our toddler won’t eat anything but cheddar bunnies. It’s hard to make mental concessions when things don’t go the way we thought they would, especially when we see a barrage of Instagram posts of moms who seem to have it all together, but as our friend Joanna Loewi says: chaos in motherhood is normal. For us, we’re going to try to remember, as long as our children are loved, safe, fed, and happy, then we’re doing our jobs just right.
What commitments are you making to yourself this year? Tell us in the comments below!